Get my goat.
Loosh, Reactive Abuse, and the Cost of Being Seen.
“I have heard many things; miserable comforters are you all.”
— Job 16:2
🧷 On Bullies, Distraction, and Reactive Abuse
I grew up surrounded by bullies — people who spent their free time trying to make me feel bad about myself. Why? To distract me from my life’s purpose.
That’s what I’ve come to understand: when people have no sense of direction, they often find entertainment in meddling. Their sense of contentment relies on external things they can’t control. So when they can control something — or someone — they latch on.
Once someone figures out how to distract you (and what they’re distracting you from), they will work that like a dog with a bone. In many cases, especially when you start to become more visible or seen for your gifts, you might find yourself on the receiving end of reactive abuse — a form of manipulation where your responses to provocation are used against you.
This is especially common for people who are scapegoated — in families, in relationships, and sometimes in entire communities.
🧛♂️ Loosh and the Economy of Attention
We often talk about energy vampires — those who drain us emotionally, mentally, and energetically. But have you ever asked: what is the energy they’re feeding on?
It has a name: Loosh.
I recently found a video that brought me serious clarity around this. It explains loosh as the energetic byproduct of human emotion, particularly fear, stress, and chaos — and why some people unconsciously (or consciously) feed on it.
🖇️ Watch here – about 30 minutes
🧠 Scapegoating: When You’re the Target of Everyone’s Unprocessed Pain
I highly recommend this article from GoodTherapy that explores scapegoating in dysfunctional families:
The Blameless Burden: Scapegoating In Dysfunctional Families – GoodTherapy
Sarah Swenson
In many systems, the scapegoat is actually the healthiest one — the most aware, the most sensitive, the one who won’t go along with denial and dysfunction. Because of that, they are made to carry the burdens no one else will face.
⚡ Signs You're Being Drained
If you consistently feel worse after interacting with someone — depleted, confused, off-center — you might be dealing with an energy vampire. But it’s not always that black and white.
People who’ve been through deep trauma can sometimes appear vampiric when they’re in survival mode. Empaths who are burnt out may behave similarly. Discernment is key.
If someone is harming you but you still care about them, it’s worth asking:
Is this a pattern… or a passing phase?
Is this who they are, or where they are right now?
You’ll know with time and observation. But protect your energy in the meantime.
🔥 Resistance as a Signal of Purpose
When you begin stepping into your life’s purpose — creatively, spiritually, relationally — you may start noticing strange resistance from people you thought would support you. That includes family, friends, co-workers, even mentors.
I experienced this deeply when I began showing my visual art. At my first solo show, I saw real, positive impact. People shifted emotionally. It was working.
And that’s exactly when the resistance sharpened.
People started trying to throw me off my path.
The start of my Saturn Return was marked by realization: I was being targeted by reactive abuse since I was a child. Over and over, I found myself falling into traps — baited by people who were trying to provoke me so they could make me look bad in front of others.
This wasn’t abstract. It connected directly to my history with childhood sexual abuse (CSA). The timing and intensity of their attacks gave their intentions away.
☠️ The Obfuscation Game
Energy vampires don’t just want your attention — they want your focus, your life force, your creative clarity. When they can’t have it, they try to render you irrelevant. Or obsolete.
They’ll minimize your impact. Dismiss your gifts. Ridicule what they once imitated.
In that sense, these people aren’t just unkind — they’re cut off from their own empathy. They’ve convinced themselves they must dismantle you to maintain their illusion of control.
And they’ll often do this in front of others, not realizing they’re exposing themselves.
Because honestly — why be so obsessed with something you claim to hate?
🧨 The Tell
Here’s the twist: your detachment is their unraveling.
When you stop feeding them attention — when you stop defending yourself, explaining, reacting — their story starts falling apart.
Others begin to notice how much they talk about you. How they contradict themselves. How they replicate your work, your words, your style… but resent you for it.
They expose themselves by trying so hard to discredit you.
🔒 Detachment is Not Disconnection
This isn’t about ghosting or going cold. It’s about protecting your nervous system. It’s about refusing to bleed for people who are offended by your healing.
Detachment doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means you won’t play the game anymore.
📚 Final Reflection
I’m not a Christian, but I find unexpected clarity from many sources — scripture being one of them. In the Book of Job, he speaks of “miserable comforters.” That story has always stuck with me.
Sometimes the people who insist they’re helping you are the very ones siphoning your clarity.
If that resonates… this piece was for you.
